Asking for help
“When you judge yourself for needing help, you judge those you are helping. When you attach value to giving help, you attach value to needing help. The danger of tying your self-worth to being a helper is feeling shame when you have to ask for help.” ~ Brene Brown
Hello, Dear Ones,
In the first note I wrote to you this year, I asked you how you were going to invest in yourself this year: in your peace, your joy, and your life.
Now, at the end of the year, I’d love to close by asking you to reflect on the investments you made in yourself this year, or the ones you didn’t make, with no judgment.
I enjoy reflecting this time of year. I seem to find more joy and satisfaction with my life when I have structured goals set for myself to be working towards.
I spent many years making resolutions to “lose weight” or “exercise more” and those never seemed to make it very long. Looking back there are some glaring reasons those resolutions didn’t work for me.
First, I wasn’t clear on what I really wanted or why I wanted those things. If asked I probably would’ve said “to be healthy,” which is still pretty vague.
Second, I never asked anyone for help. Of course, as a coach now, and having worked with coaches myself, I know the value of getting help for things when they matter to me. And even beyond coaching, I talk with people about my goals regularly now. I’ve got close friends in business I talk with about my business goals and I’ve got people I love holding me accountable for my other personal goals as well.
Having support and accountability are game changers when you’re making a plan to change something in your life, no matter what it is. Research shows that when you have a plan for support and accountability, your rates of success soar.
As you begin to reflect and possibly create goals so you can experience change in an area of your life, consider the people in your life who could support you. Think about what resources and support you have to plan for accountability.
If you don’t feel like you have those connections or resources, that’s ok. No matter what area you’re looking for help in, there’s a trained professional out there ready to walk alongside you. Maybe it’s time for you to make that investment in yourself.
Asking for help can be hard, and I know it can feel vulnerable, and it’s important that we breathe through it and do it anyway. We’re not meant to do everything on our own.
If you’re someone who’s been struggling with the way you feel in your body, feeling like you’re thinking about food all the time, or often concerned about what you’re going to eat, sign up for a free, no-obligation consultation, and let’s talk.
Also, if you’re someone who feels stressed and exhausted, like there’s no time for you, and your physical and mental health are suffering as a result, we should talk and see how I can support you going into the new year.
I’m now able to take HSA and FSA forms of payment and I offer payment plans, so if one of these areas is hard for you, I hope you’ll consider investing in yourself in the New Year. The clients I’m working with are seeing real, life-changing results, and you can too. 🙂 If you’re ready to take the first step, I’m ready to walk alongside you.
Wishing you a wonderful New Year, Dear Ones!
May it be a magical transition into the fabulous year ahead.
With love and kindness,
Jessica
P.S. The fun thing I’m doing to take care of myself is to organize. I love heading into the new year with a clean house and organized space. My office is officially decluttered and organized and it feels so good!
And a bonus thing I’m planning for the new year is investing in resources and asking for help with strength training! I’m excited about this goal and really looking forward to seeing what comes from it.
